Are you in love or in like?
Fans of the movie The Princess Bride will remember the scene where Westley and Buttercup are parting ways, and the princess wonders if she’ll ever see him again. He says, “Hear this now: I will always come for you.” When she asks how she can be sure, Westley tells her, “This is true love — you think this happens every day?”
As rhetorical questions go, most of us would agree with the implication. It doesn’t happen very often, let alone every day. People frequently fall in love, but how can you know the signs you’ve found lasting love, or if it’s something less (fleeting attraction, infatuation, a short-term romance)?
If you’re wondering what characterizes true love, consider these points:
- You’ve stopped wondering if there’s someone better out there for you.
If you’ve been searching for your soulmate for a long time, you know when it’s time to stop looking.
- There’s only one person you want to flirt with.
Singles are used to flirting, subtly or overtly, but now you’re interested in charming only your partner.
- You do things to bring happiness to your partner, without expecting something in return.
The only motivation to give is because you want to enrich your partner’s life.
- You trust the other person with your most vulnerable secrets.
It’s not easy to be completely transparent, but true love gives you the courage and safety to be real.