Dating stinks for women sometimes because of all the “rules.” We have to be careful about who to get intimate with and when because the timing has to be right. We can’t nag too much or get too distant or too clingy or even too ambitious. Well, balls to that. Guys love women who do all the don’ts. Mine did and here’s why:
1. I WENT MAKEUP-FREE (DATING INCLUDED).
Makeup is so not my thing. Yes, I’m decent looking. Yes, makeup can help me look ravishing. And like every other girl, I do like to dress up every now and then. However, I don’t put on makeup to look younger, hide any scars, or to get double takes. Makeup doesn’t define me or make me better than what I am, so on our first date, I went fresh-faced as a daisy. And guess what? He loved my all-natural look then and he still loves it now to the point that he sometimes wrestles my lipstick tube away…
2. I PIGGED OUT WHEN I WANTED TO.
I’m a whole-bodied woman. I’ve got curves and I like to eat. I love sushi and tempura and chocolate-coated butterscotch drops. I love a good Mississippi mud pie or even a sinful bacon burger with the works. I was never uncomfortable with my appetite or my love of many things delicious. I was never pretentious, especially in the company of awesome flavors. In fact, he now complements me for developing his palate too. Besides, the finer things in life become better in great company.
3. I WAS INDEPENDENT BUT REACHED BUT WHEN IN NEED.
I never made rules about this. I was always my own person—I asked for help when I needed it but declined it when I knew I could carry through on my own. I wasn’t weak or strong. No one word could define me. I’m a Bohemian that way. I was me being me. Did my guy think I was sending mixed signals? Nope, he thought I was one straightforward gal! Still thinks so more than a decade down.