I’ve never been a casual dater, but recently I was stuck in such a rut that I knew I needed to change the way I was looking for love. Instead of having all sorts of restrictions and dealbreakers, I decided to keep my options open and date a bunch of different guys to see what I’d been missing out on. I don’t know why I didn’t try it sooner, to be honest.
1. DATING THE SAME TYPE OF GUY CLEARLY WASN’T WORKING FOR ME.
I’d always thought I didn’t have a “type,” but when I looked back on my past dates and relationships, I found that all the guys I thought were so different actually had a LOT in common. Realizing this pushed me to leave my comfort zone and see what it would be like to embrace people I probably wouldn’t have given a shot.
2. I HAD TO STEP OUT OF MY COMFORT ZONE AND TRULY BRANCH OUT, WHICH WAS ACTUALLY A LOT OF FUN.
I knew that my little experiment was going to take some real effort on my part but I hoped it would be worth it. I’d accept invitations to go out with friends to new places and I joined a few dating sites and even some of the dreaded apps. Nothing could be off-limits; if I was really going to do this, I had to keep a very open mind. Once I was out there doing it, I found it surprisingly easy to strike up conversations with almost anyone and get asked out on a date. I decided I’d try for five different guys to give myself the best chance of meeting someone awesome.
3. DATING TOTALLY DIFFERENT GUYS EXPOSED ME TO TOTALLY DIFFERENT EXPERIENCES.
Not only were the personalities of the men I dated totally different but they all planned completely unique nights out. I went out for five nights in a row on dates that consisted of the opera, a karaoke bar, laser tag, a jazz club, and a monster truck rally. Spending time with someone new while experiencing such drastically different activities up close and personal told me a lot about the guy I was out with. Each guy had picked their respective date because it was something they enjoyed and it gave me a greater appreciation for and understanding of each of them.