You might feel like your man is pulling away, and you want to know what he needs from you. Whether you’ve gone on just one date or have been together for a decade married with children, the bottom line is you feel like you’re losing him.
And this thought scares you. It’s as if something is missing but you can’t really put your finger on what it is. It’s like you’re going out of your way to make him happy and trying to figure out what it is he wants and needs but for some reason you can’t figure out what to do in order to give him what he wants.
You might feel he isn’t really invested and it drives you crazy inside, but you don’t know how to bring it up to him. Or if you aren’t hiding your feelings, you might complain to him often thinking it’ll make him come around and be how you want him to be.
Well, here’s the thing. I understand why you are going out of your way to try to make him change and fully invest himself in you, but nothing you are doing is working. In fact, the opposite is happening (and there is a reason why).
The reason is because this mindset is actually sabotaging your relationship. The mindset I am talking about is… when you live in a state of fear. You are afraid of what is going to happen. You feel that if this relationship does not work out, if he does not act the way you want him to act and be who you want him to be, then you will not be OK.
If he isn’t going to commit to you the way you want him to, you will not feel OK. You fearthe outcome that you do not want to have happen and fixate on it to a point where you cannot even enjoy the quality of the time you spend with him.
No matter how much energy you put into it, nothing you do is going to help because of this sabotaging mindset. Before I can explain what men need in a woman, I first have to explain the mindset that will block you from ever being able to give him what he needs.
Even if you do everything “right,” if you are blocked by certain mindsets… fear of loss being one of the worst in terms of how much it sabotages relationships… then you will end up frustrated, confused and feeling your man pull away more and more no matter what you do.