Why is fear of loss so destructive? Because you put tons of pressure on whatever it is you have with him. You view your relationship as an entity, as if it is something you can lose. The reality is you cannot possess another person; a relationship just “is.” When you view it like this, you will be in a much better situation.
Do not think of things in terms of… “I am not happy and if only he did ___ I would be happy.” Think in terms of not viewing relationships as something you can “have.” You cannot lose something you cannot have.
What Men Need From A Woman
If you want to be in a long lasting and committed relationship with the man you want, there are several things that he needs to feel from you to make him think that you’re the one woman for him. First of all, he has to feel that you’re his partner and that you’re really truly on his side. Second, he has to feel like you really listen to him, and that you really understand what he’s trying to say. Third, you have to start with a base of compatibility – if you’re not compatible at the start, then your relationship will eventually fall apart.
Be A Partner
Think of your interactions with him as being part of a team, as being partners. You are not fighting against each other or in some kind of combat on a battlefield of life.
Life is hard enough already. Instead of making life even harder for both of you, simply realize that you are with him and he is with you. He is not out to hurt or harm you and emotionally destroy you. He is not some horrible person devoid of human emotions.
He is a man, trying his best to get by in this world on a daily basis. When you view him for who he is (and stop building up this image in your mind of who you fear he could be) you will end up in a much happier situation.
This is a common trap so many women fall into; they will view a man as if he is going out of his way to manipulate them or hurt them and play with their emotions.
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